I’m sure most of us have problems in our lives every now and then. Some of them are things that we have direct influence on, while the others are most probably things which are out of our control….things we can’t change….things we have no influence on.

How should you handle things you can’t change?

For me, there are only 2 ways. First, is to influence the things that have influence on the things you can’t change. If you do so, you’re indirectly trying to influence it. For example, your company’s top management is trying to decide which team should the new USD $ 10 million project be assigned to. You, as the team leader of a small team has no direct influence on the decision of the top management, but your department head does. What you can do, is to influence and convince your department head so that he can play his part during the top management meeting. The chances of getting it is not high, since you’ll be relying on this department head of urs. However, slim chances are always better than no chance at all.

The 2nd option…which is easier to say than do….is don’t worry about the things you can’t change. For example, if your relationship is a one-sided relationship…..no matter how much you worried about that person, you’re merely clapping with one hand. There will be no result….and yet, you’re worried about so many things. Do you have the control over such things? No? Then let it go and focus on other things you CAN control….like taking care of your family, your work, your friends, etc. Life is short, don’t waste your time on the things that you can’t control. πŸ™‚

This is just a simple post, reflecting what I’m facing now. I’ll always remind myself of this….don’t worry about the things you can’t change. When the storm is coming, don’t worry about how to stop the storm because you can’t. Instead, worry about how you can help yourselves and other people, to be safe from this storm.

Hope this helps.

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